Furt had a Lot to Say to Teenagers
Posted by Caitie F on November 24, 2010
Last night’s episode of Glee was great. The story and the performances were phenomenal. Even better was what it told teenagers – those who are gay and those who aren’t. I love the It Gets Better Project, but I thought that Glee did a better job of giving kids a message that they can use now. Yes, it DOES get better and people have shared amazing stories through that, but you can also make it better yourself.
You are NOT alone
There are adults who care about you an want to help you. Kurt was lucky because Mr Shue looks out for the Glee kids and saw him in distress. Teachers can’t always see what is going on with all of their students, but they do care. Sue was a great example. She is a bully herself, but when she realized that Kurt was scared to be in school she got serious and did everything possible to make it a better place for him. Even Sue. Find a teacher, a counselor or a principal that can help you. Find an adult in the school who can look out for you and help, even if you just need an adult to listen.
Your family DOES care
I know not everyone has a completely supportive family, but families can surprise you. If you feel scared at school or if you are bullied, make sure you tell your parents. If you aren’t ready to come out to them, it is okay, you don’t have to, but they should know. They may be able to do something. You need to make them realize it isn’t harmlesss teasing. If you can’t talk to them, find someone – an aunt or uncle, older sibling, anyone. To make real change, you need some adults on your side who are willing to talk to administrative like Kurt’s dad does.
You are AMAZING
You do not need to change who you are. You did not choose this and it isn’t something that needs to be fixed. You are who you are and you should be proud of who you are. You have friends that love you and want you to be happy. They love you just the way you are. You are SO amazing. Try not to forget that.
You have the RIGHT to feel safe in school
If you have done everything you can and nothing has changed, find something else. Not everyone can afford a private school, but most schools take open enrollment. There are districts with stricter policies or that are more welcoming. Some private schools may have scholarships or grants especially for kids trying to get away from a hostile environment. Leaving does NOT mean the bully has won as some people might tell you. It is about YOU. If you are somewhere you are comfortable and unafraid, you will grow and excel in ways you probably can’t even fathom. Take care of yourself.
Why don’t PUBLIC schools have a zero-tolerance bullying policy?
It is messed up. Why is it just okay for kids to get picked on for being different? It is because most of the schools are run by parents, but most of the parents who speak up are bullies themselves. It doesn’t have to be that way. All parents can stand up to make their school change.
Mose likely, your kid or some of their friends who you know well, are bullied. Some maybe as badly as Kurt was. They don’t have a real voice in the schools though, you do. So call and ask why there isn’t a zero-tolerance policy. Go to a school bo9ard meeting and suggest it. Find other parents that want to see the change. It will help everyone.